A Confusing Problem

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  • #2526

    Ava
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    Hello! So, you may be wondering on why I titled this discussion “A Confusing Problem”. Well, it’s because my friend was recently kicked out of the guild because he said that the message that was sent to him said that Katu (or Gen, I don’t know who got these complaints) received complaints about him for the past 3 days. He says that he’s upset and wants me to complain about it or something like that. No, I’m not going to complain about however, I was wondering on why he got these complaints in the first place. I was there for some of it (well, there were some arguments and stuff. I’m not going to get into detail because it might make people stressed), but I don’t really understand much about it and would like an explanation to why he got these complaints and got kicked out. I’m not pointing fingers at anyone. I’m just wondering on why he got kicked out. I hope people won’t take it as an offensive discussion and get mad at me.. Like I said, I just want to know why he–Evil Ark–got kicked out in the first place.

    I’m sorry if I wasted anyone’s time reading this. This discussion does not take offend on anyone, nor does it point fingers at people. I just need an explanation to why this happened..

    Like I said, I’m very sorry for this.. Please don’t take this as an offensive comment. >.< Sincerely, Charmanderranger PS: I hope you guys have a great Christmas break when it comes, by the way. I hope you understand why I'm wondering that my friend got kicked out.

    #2532

    Katu
    Keymaster
    Laurels: ʆ 424

    Hello! Don’t worry, you’re not wasting anyone’s time, and this is a totally fine thing to ask about. I definitely do understand why you’d want to know. Plus, I think you worded the whole post really well, so don’t worry, I’m not offended. :)

    To answer your question: I received two official reports (as in, from guild officers) that he was being unkind, demanding, and making people uncomfortable (I think you probably know which argument that was). There were some issues with him repeating questions that had already been answered several times, as well. I received two mails from non-officer members who said that he was just being kind of a jerk to people, and when I mentioned his name in guild chat, a whole chorus of people chimed in with their frustration with the things I mentioned above.

    Additionally, when I whispered him to talk about these issues, he didn’t respond (although he may have been afk).

    The short version is: the primary rule in the guild is to be kind and respectful, and make the guild chat a friendly and welcoming place, and he broke that rule.

    I also saw your other post, and I’m sorry you’re having to deal with the fallout from this. I hope he isn’t a jerk to you about it. And I hope you ALSO have a great Christmas break, when we get there! I have two more weeks of classes and then I finally get to breathe again! lol.

    #2536

    Ark
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    I’m so sorry every know and then I do quite read people’s comments I like don’t read all of it that is why I repeat the question and I am so sorry guild members and every know and then I don’t think before I type thing’s and I am so sorry I will work on all of these thing and I love you guys I hope you can forgive me.

    From Evil Ark?

    #2537

    Ark
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    Thanks for sticking up for me friend.

    #2538

    Ark
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    And I’m sorry for causing this problem I was confused about the rules and everything and have a great Christmas break guys.

    #2540

    Ark
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    I feel very bad for all this I can’t sleep because I feel so bad.

    #2541

    Ark
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    Laurels: ʆ 57

    Me and Ava are friends in real life so we are cool.

    #2545

    Ark
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    so no one is going to reply to this lol

    #2550

    Katu
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    Laurels: ʆ 424

    Dude, Ark, you for real need to calm down. This is not okay behaviour. If you were my ex-boyfriend, I would get a restraining order. You said in another thread you “can’t exactly whisper us” – but you CAN, in fact, whisper me (Lyra Silvertongue) as I do not have you blocked. Please do not post on multiple unrelated threads. I will ban you from the forums if you continue to do so.

    I understand that you’re upset, and for what it’s worth, I’m sorry about that. I’m also sorry that I didn’t respond to this sooner – I’ve been ill.

    The fact of the matter is that STAR actually has an 18+ rule, and the reason Char and Claw are in the guild is because they joined before we had that rule. The reasoning behind this is that the age difference between most of our members (24+) and people under 18 is really significant. When you’re younger, you really ought to spend time with people your own age, because then you can make mistakes together and learn from each other and grow.

    As someone who spent age 14+ hanging out with adults – it sucks. They expect too much of you, because they expect you to act like someone who has way more life experience than you do. They’re less tolerant of attention-seeking behaviours, expect more social savvy (tact, politeness, respect), and so on. And frankly, it’s hard for them not to be condescending because even though, to you you’re an adult, to them you’re a child. And that’s a tough situation for both parties to be in.

    I know how important it is to feel like you belong somewhere, especially when you’re young. I don’t want you to be upset about this, and I certainly don’t want you to lose sleep over it, but I know some of that is unavoidable. For what it’s worth, no one hates you. It’s just that we feel you’re not a good match for the guild. It would be unfair of us to expect you to change your personality to be in STAR.

    So I’m sorry, but I won’t be re-inviting you to the guild. You can have up to five guild slots, so it’s not like you can’t be in a guild with your real life friends – you could join GSCH or look for recruitment ads in map chat. Heck, you guys could make your own guild if you wanted to!

    Whatever you decide to do: good luck. And if you need to speak to me, you can send me in-game mails or whisper me, or post on this specific thread.

    #2562

    Ark
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    I’m sorry that you were sick and I cant whisper because I don’t have heart of thrones I promise that I will behave if I join back and a day before I was kicked I said sorry to everyone but I was still kicked lol.

    #2563

    Ark
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    ps what does gsch stand for.

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